The question ‘who will I marry’ is a critical one to everyone who dreams to ever get married. It’s almost certain that everyone living in this world has to ask himself this question a least once in a lifetime. If you fail to ask this question, you may as well find yourself asking ‘who did I marry’. There are many theories surrounding this area of marriage, this article highlights key issues that I have learnt from personal experience, research and through extensive and intensive study on the area. I therefore intend to be as practical as possible so that I do not end up introducing another unrealistic theory.
Where do I start? This might be the question that is ringing in your mind. Start where you are. Remember that everybody starts somewhere. Have you prayed about this issue? I want you to know that issues of marriage are very serious and there is no chance for trial and error. It is sad to note that in some countries marriage has been taken to be a form of contract and hence not given the weight it deserves. Please remove that from you mind. If you do not intend to spend your whole life with someone, do not waste his/her time. There is no marriage for kids, so if you are a kid, please stay away from it. There are some young adults who want to behave like kids, always looking for pity, bringing unnecessary arguments and disagreement. If you are that kind, stay away. You are yet to qualify. Marriage relationships are for mature people with a goal, which is marriage.
Do not form a habit of moving from one person to another. This shows that you are not ready for marriage. In fact this may mean that you are the person with the problem. However do not be afraid to break a relationship if both of you feel that it cannot work out, it’s better a broken relationship than a broken marriage.
EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP AND ADMINISTRATION
Everyone is a leader in his own ability and capacity. The success behind any kind of organization is effective leadership and administration. However, there are people who are born as leaders but it's important to note that leadership and administration is an art and every art can be learnt. I have met many people who never thought of being leaders but have effectively learnt the art of leadership and emerged as leaders to be admired.
In any kind of leadership, the first area of effective administration is the administration of funds. Be it in business, government departments, church or any other kind of organization, you will have the most effective leadership if you learn to use the funds properly. If any of your employees wants to paralysis your operations and bring down decades your leadership, the first place to target is your finance or/and accounting department. Your employees in this area should therefore be people of integrity and who have internalized the vision of your organization.
The second area that determines how effective you will be in your leadership is managing people. The human resource directly affects the operations of your organization. You must begin by placing every employee in the department where he/she will work best. You therefore begin by identifying where to place your staff. This means that an effective leader is close his or her staff and spends time them. After placing them in their rightful places, you need to monitor their performance. Performance of your staff is closely tied to motivation. Every employee needs to be motivated. This entails different strategies. Know which kind of motivation to use. It is not necessary to promise your staff a reward for good performance. This may bring in unhealthy competition, hatred and lack of cooperation between staff who want to out-do each other. Therefore reward unexpectedly.
Motivation may be as cheap to the organization as recognition, but make sure you recognize a staff in the midst of others. Do not do it in a closed office. It may not serve the purpose. Other strategies may include promotions, gifts, added responsibilities and increase in salary. You must also ensure that your staffs are working as a team. Working together ensures the staffs are focused towards the goals of the organization.
Effective leaders give an ear to every stakeholder of the organization. Know that the whole organization is looking on you to give direction. Begin by listening to every stakeholder then give a direction. Sometimes it's necessary to give directions basing on what you believe is best for the organization regardless of other peoples views. But this should not be always because it does not mean that you are always right. Conflict resolution strategies are important. Know that there will always arise conflicts. The win/win strategy works best for most organizations. Therefore make sure that each of the conflicting parties does not feel offended.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
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